Tuesday, January 07, 2020

My ex-guy wrote to my work e-mail account - respond or ignore

It has been over two weeks since I checked my work e-mail. I returned to work on Monday and had 100 e-mail messages waiting for me in my inbox.

Oh, joy.

One of them was from my ex-guy. He sent me a message using my work account. How charming.

He wished me a happy, prosperous new year. It seems like a slap in the face considering that he ruined 2019 for me.

Question for you:

I have not responded to his e-mails that he sent to my personal account seven months ago. I am guessing that it is the reason why he has chosen to drop me a line through my work account. Should I respond? Continue to ignore him? Respond with a YouTube music video that explains how much of a jerk he is?

I would like to know what your thoughts are. I could use a different, helpful perspective.

12 comments:

  1. Bit of a bum really. E mails are too easy to send. Ignore the e mail and block him from your work account. Then join the local Women's Institute and meet some new female friends.They are younger than you think.

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    1. Thanks, Michael. I'll continue to ignore his messages and find other healthy distractions.

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  2. I recommend that you put his address on block/spam in your work e-mail box, delete his message, and go back to putting him out of your mind. If a romantic partner has hurt you, or just left on no uncertain terms, there is never any good to be had from re-engaging.

    (if you are still working to close out any shared financial or legal obligations then have your lawyer, or a $50 storefront lawyer, send him a letter stating where he can send any required correspondence - possibly a post office box)

    Midwest Reader

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    1. Thanks so much for your help and advice. I'll simply ignore and delete his message. Out of sight. Out of mind.

      Thankfully, we don't have any financial or legal loose ends. So, I'm good.

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  3. I would just ignore it. If i wanted to take a proactive approach (depending on what you want moving forward) I might just respond with "happy new year, please kindly only use this email account for work related purposes.Thanks."

    but if you don't ever want to reply to him at all then just ignore

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    1. Thanks, Fondles. I like your suggestions. I'm thinking that I should stick with what I have been doing so far and ignore his e-mail. The interaction may conjure unpleasant feelings and thoughts.

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  4. Maybe you should ask him for a one time spanking, you know you need one.

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    1. Your response isn't helpful. Frankly, it comes across as being insensitive.

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  5. Sending to your work email after you repeatedly ignored his emails to your personal a/c crosses a line, IMHO. It appears to me that you need to nip this here and now or it could worsen. I don't know enough of the facts to help, but you need to talk to someone you trust and who is knowledgeable as to your options

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    1. Thanks for your input. We both work for the same company, so the message was from his work account to mine.

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  6. To respond, even negatively would possibly be seen as an opening to possibly re-connect. IF you have zero intention to have contact with him just use the delete.

    If you send the YouTube video that would be seen as a response and is considerably better (from his perspective) than being ignored.

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    1. I agree. It's best to ignore his e-mail. Responding would give him the impression that I want to communicate with him. Frankly, I don't. Thanks for your help!

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